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    A generational mindset, over the next twenty years a lot of the problem will I believe have literally died out.

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    Was hoping to see a video of Thom Yorke here!

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    I’m not going to defend Susan Hussey — if she really behaved the way Ngozi Fulani claims then it was wrong. But the way Ngozi Fulani has handled this will, if anything, fan the flames of racism and a lot of people will be asking whether her reaction has been disproportionate; and many people will believe it has.

    It’s perfectly reasonable to ask “where are you from”; and given someone who displays their heritage as clearly and openly as Ngozi Fulani it’s pretty obvious her family heritage is going to be overseas. Again, there’s nothing remotely wrong with that. In fact all the black people I know are delighted to be asked about their family background and heritage and why on earth shouldn’t they be, whether they’re British or not?

    OK, I would have approached the question very differently from the way Susan Hussey did, but this is an 82 year old woman for heaven’s sake; and the idea that Ngozi Fulani doesn’t want to appear “ageist” simply doesn’t hold water — many old people without a racist bone in their body would have behaved exactly as Hussey did.

    The problem here is that far from diffusing the problem of racism, Ngozi Fulani is likely to make it worse. She’s already being accused of deliberately creating the problem that she’s claiming to be the victim of, which just provides more fuel for racists.

    What a pity Ngozi Fulani didn’t use this as an opportunity to point out that what Susan Hussey was wrong, but without vilifying an 82 year-old woman, regardless of Hussey’s privilege. Instead, to many she’s just coming across as someone with an agenda who was looking to cause trouble.

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    #249785
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    No surprises in your version of events either Buck’s.

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    Age isn’t an excuse for racism, so that shouldn’t even come into it.

    There’s a difference between being asked where you come from and being continuously asked where you really come from time and time again after being told Britain, assuming the account was true. Black Brits are as British as everyone else on this board. It may be that the intent was good, but I am not going to jump to assumptions because it ‘must be’ because old people are inherently like that. That comes across as benevolently ageist to me.

    Also, blaming black people for inviting racism on themselves is very low. No matter of whatever the full story is here, it does not excuse racism and anyone using this to seize upon this would do so anyway. This is just an excuse to use to hide their intent.

    Time will tell about the context and situation, hopefully, but being 83 doesn’t give any excuse if it is a poor context. That said, I am all for forgiveness and in this social media dominated world it’s just going to be another polarised issue between the apologists and those baying for blood. An apology would suffice, in my opinion, and then we can move on. However, that won’t be the case. It will be one side using it to tear into the Royals as a whole and the apologists who will want to make out that she couldn’t have possibly been racist, even if the actual wrong is relatively small.

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    Before you start straw manning and misrepresenting, no I am not making any implications against you or casting certainty on Fulani’s story. I am just saying that the age excuse and the ‘inviting racism’ rhetoric isn’t good regardless of what actually happened.

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    ‘In fact all the black people I know are delighted to be asked about their family background and heritage and why on earth shouldn’t they be, whether they’re British or not?’

    Oh, please! You’ve got to be kidding this time. So you’ve asked them all this have you? How convenient! Nah, not washing Bucks.

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    I must have missed the questions where she was asking about her family background and heritage.

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    ‘The problem here is that far from diffusing the problem of racism, Ngozi Fulani is likely to make it worse’

    I can positively hear that table turning on her! Again, it’s not washing.

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    Buck’s post is very angry Frank!!

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    I do hope that the increasing number of posters disagreeing with Bucks’s post and mocking isn’t going to be deemed ‘bullying’ and ‘piling on’ again, otherwise this board’s going to get very sterile. There was a time a year or so ago when something needed to be done about the state of the board and drastic action was taken. It’s not any way near that state again IMO. Apologies for the aside. Thanks.

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    And fair play to Bucks for his comments on the “moderation”.

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    I’ve said in the past that I miss Bucks’s contributions when he’s not contributing and that he’s grist to the mill. Without him, it would be a bit of an echo chamber. Sorry, off topic again. Back on topic, I heard someone on the radio yesterday excusing Hussey because the Royals also say ‘what do you do?’ when they meet the public (experienced it twice myself). It’s really not similar is it? Sounded a lame excuse to me. That said, as Siderite said, it’s a shame it’s being used to cause more division and a simple apology and honest explanation from Hussey would help.

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    A voice of a different opinion would be good. I don’t disagree with Bucks on everything, and there are often things I agree with. I do try and see the best in people. I just wish I wouldn’t need to battle against straw men and misrepresentations, mostly. I also feel that he’s sometimes guilty of doing what he accuses the left of doing in stereotyping those more to the left.

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    On the back of “Royal insiders” briefing about being worried about the colour of Harry and Megan’s children it once again lifts the lid on the white supremacy at our top table ,and it filters down.Just look at the way the usual right wingers went crackers at the ONS report on religion. They’re not really Christian just worried about white supremacy.

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    Of course age isn’t an excuse for racism, Siderite, and I’m not for one moment saying it is. The point is that older people — and 83 most definitely falls into that bracket — come out with all sorts of stuff, which can very easily be misinterpreted, and anyone whose spent time with older people will be very aware of this.

    Ngozi Fulani is obviously as British as anyone, just as black Brits are as British as anyone. But was Hussey questioning that? It seems doubtful given that Ngozi Fulani would surely have said so; and as far as I’m aware she hasn’t, but maybe I’ve missed it. There’s nothing remotely wrong with asking people about their background and family heritage and Deerey’s comment about my asking the black people I know is just plain daft. What does it matter how many people I’ve asked? The point is that not a single person I have ever asked has ever taken offence and why should they? I ask white people just as much as black people because it’s interesting to know — the people I’ve met have always appreciated that I’m interested in them and the idea it’s somehow racist is absurd.

    As for “blaming black people for inviting racism on themselves being low”, that is just ridiculous. It doesn’t matter what colour someone is, black, white, orange or purple, there’s good and bad everywhere. The idea that Ngozi Fulani is perfect because she’s black is as nonsensical as claiming that someone is bad because they’re white.

    Ultimately, context is everything. Yes, Hussey was wrong but a lot of people are questioning Ngozi Fulani’s motive for saying what she has and whether she is looking to exploit the situation; and just because she’s black doesn’t mean that’s impossible. The truth is that we just don’t know. My understanding is that Hussey has asked to meet Ngozi Fulani to apologise to her in person, which is exactly the right thing to do.

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    As for removing this or any other thread, that’s the last thing I want.

    And, Siderite, I’ve never claimed to be perfect. The truth is that neither are you or anyone else on this board.

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    There’s a lot I agree with there, but I think we need to wait before we make cast iron judgements over intent. Fulani made it sound like Hussey kept questioning after she said Britain. Hussey may not have been intentionally malicious, but sub-conscious bias is a thing. More forgivable, maybe, but not right and still could be seen as racism.

    “As for “blaming black people for inviting racism on themselves being low”, that is just ridiculous”

    You’re the one saying this episode would make things worse, as if calling out what is perceived to be racism is wrong. As if in a blatantly obvious racist episode racists and their apologists wouldn’t say the same thing. They would then say this is wrong because it fans the flame of the real racists.

    It’s the same tale every time. We saw it with anti-Semitism in Labour when many said that of course they’d be against real anti-Semitism and that the claims made were inviting the real anti-Semites to take advantage. Yet when examples of anti-Semites making Holocaust denial claims, artwork of Jews with stereotypical features and star of Davids with swastikas came out these people were silent.

    I am categorically not saying you are like this or don’t care about racism. My point is that this is a bad argument because it implies it’s wrong to complain about racism

    “The idea that Ngozi Fulani is perfect because she’s black is as nonsensical as claiming that someone is bad because they’re white.”

    Can you get through one post without straw manning me please? Please point to where I said black people are inherently perfect. My point had sod all to do with identity politics nonsense. The point you’re responding to has nothing to do with what you’re rebutting with. I wasn’t saying black people are perfect, I wasn’t implying you don’t like black people. Enough with these ridiculous misinterpretations.

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    And, Siderite, I’ve never claimed to be perfect. The truth is that neither are you or anyone else on this board.

    lol. I haven’t claimed to be perfect either, I know I am not and have apologised for when I have made errors. Being wrong is no skin off my nose, but you often wag your finger at others while displaying the same behaviour you engage in.

    Pointing out you’re not mr perfect does not mean I think I am.

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    “The point is that older people — and 83 most definitely falls into that bracket — come out with all sorts of stuff, which can very easily be misinterpreted”

    It’s called losing your inner filter.

    My mother in law would sit in a cafe or the doctor’s waiting room and say aloud things like “look at the size of her, she shouldn’t be eating cake”. Or “why’s he got all those tattoos on his neck, he looks ridiculous”.

    A mate of mine who’s only mid-seventies said a really stupid thing in jest the other week and is now completely mortified and embarrassed about it.

    You’d like to think Ms Hussey felt likewise and would offer a full apology. If Charlie Boy wants to modernise the Monarchy it would be a good place to start.

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    ‘”why’s he got all those tattoos on his neck, he looks ridiculous”.’

    Sounds perfectly reasonable to me and less problematic than Les Dawson’s mother in law.

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    Hussey was clumsy. When you see a person in full national costume it doesn’t seem too unreasonable to ask about origins. To some extent it wouldn’t be unreasonable to make the assumption that they wanted a conversation around that. If Hussey was a racist … rather than being out of step/insensitive … then she would have stayed well away from her. Storm in a teacup for me.
    (ps is it racist to lead an organisation that seeks to support black women who are victims of domestic violence?)

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    Does growing vegetables in my garden make me a vegan?

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    I don’t think the initial question was the major problem. The issue is that she apparently kept asking after being repeatedly told Britain.

    Either way, this issue would have been sorted with an apology,ideally, but neither side wants that, so it will be yet another stupid culture war borne out of intransigence.

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    It’s difficult to know where to start with this, coming from a member of one of the oldest, most privileged and supposedly most respected institutions of this country which has had repeated and ongoing scandals involving racism.

    To begin… Hussey didn’t just ask about origins. The black woman told Hussey where she was from, but Hussey pursued it in an offensive manner. Would Hussey have pursued it with a red-head with an apostrophe in her surname, or a prefix of ‘Mac’, if she’d said she was from London? Of course not.

    The problem with Hussey is that she probably didn’t realise she was behaving in a racist way, because she’s been doing it all her life. But times have changed, we’ve moved on, and it is a problem now, and time to learn about it.

    Oh, but she was elderly, they say. So, what is officially the age at which it’s permitted to be racist? Is it OK if you’re over 70 to move a black woman’s hair and tell her you don’t believe her when she says she’s from London? Or should it be 65.5, maybe? 60, anyone??

    Perhaps it’s the same with yourself, JI. You see it as OK because you’ve been doing it all your life, and on top of that you’ve been persuaded and gaslit into thinking it’s OK by the likes of Farage and other Kippers, as well as black people in the cabinet who claim white privilege doesn’t exist.

    Yet, racism is all around us. Show me a white footballer whose skin colour is brought into the discussion if he misses a penalty in an England shirt! And we end up talking about stuff like this woman’s conversation, which is trivial in itself, but so very serious. Why? Because it’s symptomatic of the epic inequality – social, racial and financial – even in institutions which claim to represent us, which is at the root of so many of this country’s problems. We should be ashamed.

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    Yep some of the country still don’t get it and I guess some never will but as I posted earlier quite a lot will die out soon. Look it’s a mindset based on upbringing and what was taught at the time, yes it takes time but it will eventually get there so we keep on commenting but we know that time is the key. Just a footnote, I caught Farages version of these unfortunate events on you tube the other day on his GB news show with a live audience and it’s token black person in attendance, sounded remarkably like Bucks version to me. So there you go just an opinion.

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    Lots of white blokes thinking they can decide or know what a black person should see as racist.

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    A lot of well reasoned arguments there Gurny. I wouldn’t pass aspersions onto how JI would converse with black people, but the rest are really good points.

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    She’s in a position of power and influence,purely because of her bloodline.
    What was she doing there for starters?
    Who was she representing?
    As soon as her victim said London she should and could have said,”sorry I meant your attire (if that was her actual meaning) it’s beautiful”. I think that would have defused it .But she didn’t , she drove it home because like all at the top table she has never had to think about things,she’s been spoon fed all her life and thinks that Britain is a white country so nobody else can be considered British. I’d wager she’s a church goer too.
    She’s a shining beacon to all those racists now,they cannot wait to make excuses for someone who has been sponging off them all her life,80 years of sumptuous state meals while Farage has you looking in the channel for scapegoats for his new hero Starmer

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